Richard Eisenberg, next Avenue
So you are a type A personality: heavy load, status-driven and impatient. How do you think that will work for you in retirement?
Probably not so great after Donald Asher, a Gerlach, Nevada, career counsellors, the type of A pensioner has studied. "Type A not, prevent that type of A retired," Asher says.
Asher, who speaks on this issue across the country, told me that a type A personality in the retirement life is not very well suited.
"You can play only so much golf."
"A type A guy I on a golf course met told me: ' if I was about to retire, I was looking forward to much golf to play." But now that I'm retired, I found you can only so much Golf, play ' "Asher says.
Before going into retirement, are the type of A leader at work often, barking orders and getting things done, if they want, kind and wise, what you want. (Cardiologists Meyer Friedman, who coined the term "Type A personality", said the behavior is partly expressed through "free-floating hostility", but let us not go there.)
Reminiscent of the famous New Yorker cartoon about the dog over the Internet, were retired, no one knows that, a Manager, or a heart surgeon. Uniform, a type of A pensioner looks just like the pensioners and is seen by the people who will find he or she usually otherwise. You will receive no special treatment (Senior discounts aside). You are not surrounded by toady that bend knees, based on your title, because you do not have a title. And how you can get a shock.
In addition, life is if you are pensioner unstructured. Meet fed have not for you at certain times. It is up to you your day, your weekend, your month - should be drawn in your life. It is annoying for a type a.
Rob Pascale found all this out when he from his job running a market research company in Charlotte, NC on 51 adopted the main author of the retirement maze, I wrote a great book about next Avenue, Pascale told me that only a few months after his resignation bleak becoming. "I had low self esteem than if I work was", he says. "I had a lack of structure and purpose in my life."
Withdrawn for five months
The New York Times recently wrote about the similar experience of Alan Siegel, 74, who had been Chairman of the brand-and-corporate-identity consultants Siegel & Gale in New York City. A type A, if there ever was a seal in May and lasts around five months later decided that he hack it could not. He started just seal vision, a company that is competing with which he had founded and the left.
On the question why not retire to enter, said Siegel,: "I can not. I love the interaction with different types of people. I like shake things up, make a difference."
The adjustment is not difficult, only for type A life can be for their spouse become brutal wind up always ordered, if only because of the proximity.
"A woman told me that her husband began demanding she fold the towels differently", Asher says. "she said to him: ' you never care, for 50 years towels folded like me." This is not to go to work. ""
Retirement advice for type A
So what do a type A when retirement beckons?
Start with the construction of a new social network of other retirees, Asher suggests. "The biggest thing is social interaction often, that is missing the type A the four walls of a House are not enough in life" he says. "You can scratch the itch a social network."
Next, find a new form of prestige, replace provided the status of your work. "Maybe it is the Rolling Stones around the world to follow or ride a $365,000 RV," Asher says.
If you are considering an encore career to help others searching for the type of position that plays to your personality. In General, this means a paid or volunteer job as a supervisor with authority.
Finally, Asher says something, add pressure and stress to your life - and this may sound a little strange-. "This is not compatible with the traditional idea of retirement," he notes. "I had a friend who does Ironman Triathlon at 60. "He is creating his own pressure."
Appear for a type A pressure and stress simply make your life worth living.
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